How do I know if my child is being bullied?
- Physical signs
- Emotional signs
- Behavioural signs
How do I know if my child is a bully?
How can I help my child?
How to approach the school
Dealing with the local authority
What is my legal position?
All parents and carers hope that the children for whom they care are able to talk to them if they are having problems, if they are in trouble or if something is making them scared or miserable. However, children and young people often find it impossible to talk to anyone when bullying occurs, even a parent or carer with whom they have a good relationship.
Bullying is a very difficult subject for young people and is deeply associated with feelings of guilt and shame. Kids that are bullied often feel that they must have done something to cause it or that they should be able to handle the problem themselves (this is especially true with older children). Also, in most schools and youth groups there is a stigma attached to reporting the bullying to any adult.
Some of the effects of bullying are easy to spot even without being told that bullying is taking place, but others are less obvious. Here are some lists of physical, emotional and behavioural clues that you may see in your child if he/she is being bullied. They may help you to support your child if he/she is having a problem with bullying but has not yet been able to talk to you about it. By picking up on these clues, you can then raise the subject of bullying with your child.